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July 2011

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Immigration ramble

So, the UK Border Agency has been cracking down all over the place on immigration, and recently they put out a survey (which you can still take here) to gather public opinion about various facets of immigration.  When I took it, I felt like a lot of the wording was pretty leading and that most of it smelled vaguely of Tory.  

Most of the issues are based around equalizing the time, money and attachment requirements needed to enter and stay in the UK, no matter which route you choose.  Generally, I don’t have a problem with saying that someone who comes as a student has to do the same steps as someone who comes here as a spouse… but those issues are a lot easier than trying to decide what to do with a british national’s spouse and children who were all living overseas forever and now want to come back to England.

The parts that freaked me out the most, though, were about tackling sham marriages, particularly this one part which states

Those involved in sham marriages undermine our immigration system, and damage the institution of marriage.

as a preamble to suggesting that there should be a border control agent posted at every register’s office, who has the ability to step in and question people and even stop their weddings if they suspect it might be a sham marriage.  In the states, the people who use the expression, “damage the institution of marriage” are usually tea partiers who are campaigning against gay rights, so it always sets off a flag.  

Anyway, this is just a long rambling explanation to why I felt so sad and annoyed to read this story last night about a couple who was basically forced to miss their own wedding because the UKBA suspected them of shamming… which they weren’t.  Instead, they were hauled off, separated from each other and questioned, and ended up having to be married elsewhere the next day.  The UKBA did keep one of their guests for deportation, though.

I mean, really?  We want to give them MORE power to do things like this?  In my mind, the question should really be, “why did it take the UKBA until the very last minute to get over there to check up on the documentation?”  

Jul 30, 20112 notes
“How many times have you seen a website say “We’re not responsible for the content of our comments.”? I know that when you webmasters put that up on your sites, you’re trying to address your legal obligation. Well, let me tell you about your moral obligation: Hell yes, you are responsible. You absolutely are. When people are saying ruinously cruel things about each other, and you’re the person who made it possible, it’s 100% your fault. If you aren’t willing to be a grown-up about that, then that’s okay, but you’re not ready to have a web business. Businesses that run cruise ships have to buy life preservers. Companies that sell alcohol have to keep it away from kids. And people who make communities on the web have to moderate them.” —

If your website’s full of assholes, it’s your fault.

This article is so good, and so spot on.  I used to manage communities for a living, and this is a total pet peeve of mine.  I have had so many employers who think it’s ok to open up a forum somewhere and then completely ignore what gets said on it.  It’s not actually that much work to keep the community culture positive - but it is like gardening, in that you have to watch over it in order to keep it weed-free.

Jul 29, 201116 notes
Hrm.

Have any of you ever been to The Eden Project?  

It looks cool, but it’s about 90 minutes from where we’re staying next week and we’d probably have to find a dog-sitter for the day.  I was just wondering if it’d be worth the visit, or if it’s more geared towards families and I’d be just as happy wandering the beaches near our cottage.

Jul 29, 2011
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But we were there. I am Proud to have been a bookseller. I am proud to have worked for a once generous and supportive company that elevated me professionally and personally. I am proud to have helped endless people, no doubt suffering, find books on dealing with depression and anxiety or the death of a loved one. I’m proud to have put baby books and wedding books and college guides into peoples hands and to have been some small part of their lives for a bit. I’m proud to have given Phillip Pullman a leg up, and Octavia Butler and Muriel Barbery, Craig Thompson, and Malcom Gladwell. I am so proud to have learned so much over the years simply by being surrounded by books and having instant access to so much information and ideas. We were there. We got it.

To those who say this is a market correction, that this is overdue, that conventional publishing is dying: I think back to my Borders family, to all the people who have been a part of my life, even if just for a moment as I helped them shop, I say…You are probably right, but I kindly and respectfully add Fuck You.

”
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Cory - A Bookseller Without Borders, Day 1 (via laughterkey)

I worked for Borders for a long time.  As a company, I don’t think they ever really went out of their way for employees.  I vividly remember my first day after transferring to a new store, where I was told that I’d have to take a pay cut and oops, nobody remembered to tell me until I had already moved.  The pay was dismal to begin with and this was ridiculous, really.   

Despite this ever-present feeling that corporate didn’t really have a clue and was going to screw us all over in the end, my years there were really happy.  All of my coworkers were great, and my customers ranged from incredibly smart to fantastically weird.  It was a great community to work in.

Jul 24, 2011199 notes

Small child outside is singing a fantastic rendition of Eye of the Tiger.

Jul 24, 20112 notes

I paid some highway robbery prices for american food goodies at Selfridges yesterday, but this morning I am full of cinnamon Quaker Oats and very smiley.

Later, Betty Crocker confetti cake.   I bought some JIF, too, just because I know my brits think of it as household cleaner and squirm a little to hear that I’ve eaten it on a sandwich.

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Jul 15, 20117 notes
“I saw my life branching out before me like the green fig tree in the story. From the tip of every branch, like a fat purple fig, a wonderful future beckoned and winked. One fig was a husband and a happy home and children, and another fig was a famous poet and another fig was a brilliant professor, and another fig was Ee Gee, the amazing editor, and another fig was Europe and Africa and South America, and another fig was Constantin and Socrates and Attila and a pack of other lovers with queer names and offbeat professions, and another fig was an Olympic lady crew champion, and beyond and above these figs were many more figs I couldn’t quite make out. I saw myself sitting in the crotch of this fig tree, starving to death, just because I couldn’t make up my mind which of the figs I would choose. I wanted each and every one of them, but choosing one meant losing all the rest, and, as I sat there, unable to decide, the figs began to wrinkle and go black, and, one by one, they plopped to the ground at my feet.” —

From The Bell Jar, Sylvia Plath

Sent to me by my friend Stephanie, as we discussed how frustrating it is to hit an age where you realize that you’ll never have time to do EVERYTHING you know you are capable of.

Jul 8, 201110 notes
#quotes #friends
Oh beautiful for spacious skies...

This year for American Independence Day, I drank a mug of hot tea while making a jug of iced tea.  There’s a marriage of cultures for you.

Sometimes, I idly wonder what my American forefathers would have thought about their American descendent moving back to England.  (Particularly in light of the fact that taxation without representation is a way of life for me until I get my citizenship next year.)  In the end, I don’t suppose they’d care, having been expats themselves and having some kind of idea what it’s like to straddle two continents.  (None of them were British, anyway.)

I saw some article on CNN’s website about 100 things that are great about America.  Let me tell you, it’s a pretty crap list.  I thought about putting one together myself but it’s hot out today and I’ve got things to do before all my bathroom fixtures arrive tomorrow.  So for now, let’s leave it at:  pumpkin pie, 24 hour shopping, iced tea and fireflies.

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